Energy Healing is intimate work, treat it with respect
A few days ago I received a frantic phone call from one of my clients.
“OMG,” she said. “I am so happy you picked up the phone.”
“What’s going on?” I asked.
“Well,” she said. “I met this guy at a coffee shop and we talked for a few minutes. He said he was an energy healer, could look at people’s energy and give them information about their health. He then offered to look at my energy and tell me what’s going on with me health wise.”
“Right there in the coffee shop?”
“Yes! Right there in the coffee shop.”
“So what happened?”
“He moved my arm up and down, touched my stomach, heart, throat, head and he told me that there’s something wrong with my heart.”
“What did he say exactly?”
“That my heart energy is weak. OMG. I’m so scared. What do I do? How do I fix this?”
As she was telling me this story, I could hear the pitch in her voice rise and panic set in. In her mind, she had a valid reason to be scared. Just recently, she lost her father to disease and she was heartbroken. She was also a single mom of two kids, both of them still in diapers, so she had no time or energy to process the loss of her dad.
After calming her down a bit I asked, “Why did you allow a stranger to look into your energy?”
“Because he offered and I have received many benefits from energy work before, so I thought it would be a good idea.”
“What if you had an inflamed sciatic nerve and had pain running down your back to your ankle and you met a massage therapist at the supermarket who specialized in treating sciatic issues. Would you let him massage your butt right there in the produce aisle?”
She laughed. “No. I wouldn’t.”
“Because I don’t know this guy. I do not know his qualifications nor his success rate and plus, getting my butt massaged in the supermarket is not appropriate.”
“What if he truly was a great therapist who had a lot of success in the field of removing sciatic pain? And what if you googled him and got confirmation that he is legit. Would you let him massage your butt in the supermarket?”
“No. A supermarket is not an appropriate place for a massage. I would be happy to have met such a person and I would book the first available appointment to see him in his office,” she answered.
“So why did you allow a stranger to look inside your energy? Isn’t that just as intimate as letting someone touch your butt?”
“Now that I think about it, it’s more intimate. Allowing someone into my energy field is much more intimate than allowing someone to touch my physical body. But I did not think of it that way. He looked like a nice person, offered to read my energy and I figured he would provide me with useful feedback. Now I realize that I allowed a stranger to have intimate contact with me in the middle of a coffee shop. But what do I do about my heart?”
“Take a deep breath. Now, how do you know that the guy was legit and that he indeed saw something happening with your heart? Maybe he took an educated guess. Most people have unresolved heartbreaks so saying there’s something going on with your heart will apply to many people. But let’s say he is legit and indeed, he saw something in your heart energy. Did you ask him to explain what he saw and provide suggestions on how to heal it?”
“No. There was not enough time.”
“Don’t you think it’s irresponsible of him as a healer to tell you what’s wrong but not tell you to what extent and what to do about it? And even more irresponsible to practice energy work in a public place on a stranger? Energy healing is sacred work, not in the sense that healers are special but in the sense that it must be practiced with reverence and integrity. Healers have a responsibility to discern when this work is appropriate and when it is not. Imagine, you are standing in line at a department store while reading your divorce agreement. The woman behind you, claiming to be a lawyer, proceeds to offer you legal advice. Would you take it? Or someone claiming to be doctor comes up to you in the supermarket juice aisle and says, “Hey, I’ve seen these symptoms before, you are suffering from clinical depression and I sell these awesome vitamins that are sure to help you. Let’s order them for you right now. Give me your credit card.” What would you do?
She laughed. “Well, if you put it that way… Ok. I see what you mean. I made a mistake allowing a stranger to look into my energy in a public setting. Lesson learned. Is there something I can do to clear myself?”
Now, I have known this woman for several years and I knew that she was a Reiki practitioner. I advised her to perform Reiki on herself with the intention of removing any energy that is not for her highest and best good, to forgive herself and to treat this episode as a lesson learned. I spoke with her the following evening and she felt much better about this incident. She was happy because next time she will know what to do.
Dear friends, in the same way as you would not trust anyone claiming to be a doctor, don’t trust anyone claiming to be a healer. Just because someone says they can do something does not mean they can or will do it well. And even if they are indeed a powerful healer, performing a healing may not be appropriate right now. Or there may not be enough time to do a good job. There’s a reason healers have office hours. If you are serious about your wellbeing, research the healer, get referrals, read testimonials, trust your inner guidance and go see that healer in an appropriate setting. Do not fall for free advice, you truly do get what you pay for.
Dear healers, please practice your art with respect and discernment. Just because you can do something does not mean you should. The person may not be ready for the information you want to give them. The space or your own energy may be tainted. Even if the person asks you, remember, you are the one with the knowledge. It is up to you to know what is appropriate and when. Do not show off your “super powers” to strangers. Do not offer help unless asked. You will be a much better healer for it.
And for all my friends, getting inside a person’s energy is intimate business, treat it with the respect and reverence it deserves. “No” is a complete sentence whether you are a healer or a client.